The Marriage Secret

A friend of ours sent us a note the other day. Her daughter is getting married and she asked us to write down a few things that we had learned in our 25 years of marriage. She was going to gather these lessons from several couples and then give them to her daughter as a wedding gift. This got me to thinking about marriage and what it really takes for it to be successful.

Now in 25 years I've learned a lot, but the more I thought about it the more I realized how difficult it was to encapsulate the lessons I've learned over the years into nice little cliches. Marriage is a lot like life in that it's something that you grow into and grow with. The years go by and you realize that you've become a different person. But with everything that I've learned, there is one special piece of knowledge - a secret - that I learned years ago. It's guaranteed to make a marriage work.

We all know that marriage is a complicated thing - so I've decided to let everyone in on this secret. Now before I tell you what it is, I want you to understand how big a secret this really is. You don't have to attend a seminar - you don't have to buy the DVD's for $39.95 - you don't have to read a book - and you don't even have to sit in a room full of people and talk about your feelings. But this little piece of knowledge will absolutely revolutionize every aspect of your marriage.

So now that I've built this up, are you ready?

Here it is:

Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself - Philippians 2:3

Disappointed? You shouldn't be. Why is it that we will read the next book, go to the next seminar or buy the next DVD - but we will not apply the simple truths of God's Word? What you've just read is a foundational truth in the Scriptures. If you will apply that truth, it will change not only your marriage but every relationship that you have. Feel free to pass it on.